What Should You Do When Your Best Friend Wants to Marry Your Boyfriend?

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I’m not going to lie. When my best friend told me she was in love with my boyfriend, I was shocked. But what really scared me was the fact that she said she’d been in love with him for a long time.

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Sure, we’ve all fantasized about our friends’ significant others, but this was different because it was something more than just an idle wish or fantasy: it was real and concrete and based on years of friendship and mutual respect between these two people who mean so much to each other. So now what do you do?

 

You need to set boundaries

In order to set boundaries around your interactions with your friend and her new fiance, it’s important to first identify what you want. Do you want to spend more time with them as a couple? Do you want to spend less time with them as a couple? Or perhaps neither of these options appeals to you.

In this case, one thing that I recommend is using the “three strikes” rule: If a boundary is violated three times (or so) in succession, then it’s okay for you not only not to follow that boundary but also for the other person(s) involved in the situation not to follow it either.

This means that if someone does something that bothers or upsets me after I’ve asked them repeatedly not do so (and if they know about my boundaries), then I don’t care anymore about whether or not they continue doing it, I will no longer feel obligated by my own rules regarding how much time we should spend together or what activities we should engage in while spending time together.

You might also find yourself asking yourself things like: Are there certain types of conversations that make me uncomfortable? Are there certain topics that are off-limits when discussing with my friend and her fiancé? What kinds of physical contact is okay between me and either one of them alone versus when both people are present at once? Should I avoid any expression of affection toward either person until after their wedding day?

 

You need to talk to your friend and have a serious conversation

The first thing you need to do is have a serious conversation with your best friend. While it’s tempting to avoid this, if you want your friendship with her to continue past this wedding, there are some things that need to be said.

You should tell her how much you care about her and how much she means to you. Then talk about what happened between the two of them during their relationship, and why it didn’t work out for them.

This will be an uncomfortable conversation for both of you, but it’s important that she knows where your feelings lie when it comes to being in love with the same man at different times in your lives (or even at the same time).

 

You need to clear the air with your boyfriend

It is important, to be honest with your boyfriend about how you feel about his new relationship with your best friend. You need to make sure that you are not being selfish and only thinking about yourself.

You should also make sure that you are not being hypocritical, as it is unfair for your boyfriend to care about what other people think of him when he doesn’t care about how others see them together. Finally, if he knows that you don’t think they should get married, then maybe they shouldn’t get married.

 

You need to be ready for the worst-case scenario

When your best friend wants to marry your boyfriend, it’s important to keep in mind that the worst-case scenario is just as likely as the best-case scenario.

Don’t expect things to turn out exactly how you want them; instead, prepare yourself for every possibility. You might think that marrying your boyfriend will bring happiness and joy into all of your lives, but don’t be surprised if things don’t work out that way.

On the other hand, there are some situations where marrying a guy who already has a girlfriend can lead directly to unhappiness and conflict among friends. For example, James has been dating Sarah since high school and considers her his soulmate.

They plan on getting married after he finishes law school, but then his old friend Diana shows up back in town with her daughter Gabby (who turns out to be James’ age).

Diana asks James if they can give their relationship another shot because she lost her husband five years ago and hasn’t been able to find anyone else since then; even though he still loves Sarah dearly and doesn’t want anything bad happening between them either way… well maybe he could just try dating both at once?

Being a good friend to someone is tough, especially when it comes to something as personal as their romantic relationship. The most important thing you can do is talk to your friend and try to understand where she’s coming from. If she has some valid reasons for wanting her boyfriend to marry her, then maybe there’s a way for everyone involved to make this work out.

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